The popular notion that adversity makes one stronger is being challenged by experts, who suggest it may be more harmful than helpful. The idea, popularized by Friedrich Nietzsche’s quote, “That which does not kill you makes you stronger,” has become a mantra in self-help philosophy, but research suggests otherwise.

According to Svend Brinkmann, a professor of psychology, there’s no statistical evidence that significant adversity is beneficial, and the accumulation of hardships can lead to negative outcomes. Brinkmann argues that this philosophy can also discourage people from helping others, assuming they will emerge stronger on their own.

The article explores the concept of hormesis, where small amounts of stress can have a strengthening effect, similar to strength training. The Biosphere 2 experiment, where trees grew poorly due to a lack of wind stress, is cited as an example. However, the analogy between hormesis in nature and human resilience is questioned.

Resilience, experts argue, is not solely an individual trait but is heavily influenced by one’s support system and community. People in supportive environments are more likely to cope with adversity than those who are isolated.

The story references sociologist Anton Antonovsky’s research on Holocaust survivors, which found that those who coped best had a sense of coherence, characterized by meaningfulness, comprehensibility, and manageability in their lives.

The author reflects on personal experiences and the challenges of dealing with a child’s illness, questioning whether adversity inherently makes one stronger. Instead, the author suggests that focusing on building strong relationships and support systems is more crucial for navigating difficult times.

The performance society’s pressure to optimize even grief and crises is criticized. Brinkmann warns against viewing adversity as an opportunity for self-improvement, stating that it can lead to unnecessary diagnosis and treatment.

Ultimately, the author concludes that surviving hardship does not necessarily lead to strength, but rather to a wealth of experience, even if unwanted. The importance of standing still, finding support, and appreciating the present moment is emphasized.