The Danish government’s decision to allocate 700,000 kroner to map the “manosphere,” digital spaces where young boys are exposed to misogyny and inappropriate masculinity ideals, has ignited a debate about gender equality in Denmark. Critics argue that this initiative is symptomatic of a broader trend that unfairly links masculinity with violence, oppression, and misogyny.

The debate centers on the concern that extreme examples and expressions like “toxic masculinity” are being used to cast suspicion on and problematize the foundation of most men’s identities. This, in turn, leads to generalizations and a devaluation of masculine norms, fostering a sense of shame and frustration among young men.

The author contends that while the intention to understand digital radicalization is commendable, the focus on the “manosphere” as a widespread phenomenon is not supported by research. They also point to examples where traditional masculine traits are criticized in the public debate, even though many women continue to demand these traits in men.

The author argues that “toxic feminism,” characterized by an active suspicion of men and a one-sided understanding of gender power, is a pervasive discourse in Denmark. They cite examples of statements and actions that would be considered outrageous if directed at women but are deemed acceptable when directed at men.

The piece suggests that figures like Andrew Tate, known for his controversial and sexist views, are a product of the counter-pressure created by the shaming of ordinary male-related behavior. This creates a sanctuary for some young men, albeit an unhealthy one, but one that would not exist without its counterpart – toxic feminism.

The author concludes by urging equality debaters to stop claiming that violence against women is a general male problem, emphasizing that it is committed by a vanishingly small minority of men. They call for a more balanced and factual approach to the gender equality debate, one that gives space to ordinary boys and men who want to be masculine without being lumped together with violent men.