A relationship therapist has observed a common pattern in couples: men desiring more intimacy while women feel pressured and reject advances. Daisy Løvendahl, a sexologist, notes these gender differences significantly impact relationships.

According to Løvendahl, this disparity isn’t about women being asexual but rather about societal pressures affecting their desire. Many women in their 30s and 40s experience pressure from work, parenthood, and household responsibilities, leaving them with little energy for intimacy.

Unresolved conflicts often underlie a lack of intimacy. Løvendahl advises couples to identify and address these issues, as they can create distance and reduce desire. She also cautions against “duty sex,” which can damage intimacy.

Creating dedicated time for intimacy is crucial for a healthy sex life. Couples should schedule time together where the focus is on connection and intimacy.

Understanding one’s own sexuality and being curious about a partner’s needs are also essential. Desire changes throughout life, so it’s important to stay informed about oneself and one’s partner.