Young Danish women are increasingly seeking relationships with men abroad, particularly in Turkey, due to a perceived lack of assertiveness and initiative among Danish men. This trend is highlighted in the DR documentary “Princess in Alanya,” which follows young Danish women traveling to Turkey to experience a different dating culture.

The documentary and similar TV shows like “Bachelorette” have sparked debate about gender roles and expectations in Denmark. Some argue that modern feminism has inadvertently suppressed traditional masculine traits, leading to confusion and dissatisfaction in the dating scene. Karen West, a self-proclaimed “old feminist,” believes that women have “castrated” Danish men and are now seeking more assertive partners elsewhere.

The desire for men who take control and initiative is a recurring theme in these programs. Therapist and sexologist Patricia Jiménez notes that many women miss men who “dare to kiss them, grab them, invite them on dates, take control.” This sentiment reflects a broader concern that men have become overly cautious, fearing they might cross boundaries.

However, this trend also raises concerns about the potential for a backlash against gender equality. West fears that the pendulum is swinging too far to the right, potentially leading to the rise of “incels” – angry men who feel unable to attract women.

The increasing number of single Danes may be a consequence of these diverging expectations. Statistics Denmark predicts that over half of Danes will be singles without children by 2025, despite the fact that many single men and women desire a partner.

Psychologist Svend Aage Madsen suggests that gender roles are undergoing a significant upheaval, causing confusion and uncertainty among young people. He believes that the media’s portrayal of dominant behavior can have a significant impact on how young people perceive themselves and their roles in relationships. Many men are unsure how to be proactive without being criticized for being too dominant or abusive.