Danish singles face challenges in finding love, especially after divorce and as they age, with a record number of adults living alone. Tina Brandt, a 59-year-old divorcee, shares her experiences navigating the modern dating landscape and the insights she’s gained along the way.

Brandt has explored various avenues for finding a partner, including Tinder, speed dating, folk high school, choir, and even “scanning the room” at seminars and conferences. Despite her efforts, she remains single and admits it deeply affects her, leading her to question if she’s doing something wrong.

She has lowered her expectations over the years, becoming less concerned with appearance and finances. She now seeks someone to share simple moments with, like playing Yatzy, enjoying wine, watching movies, and sharing kisses and closeness.

Her experiences on Tinder have been demotivating, facing rejection and unanswered messages. She’s encountered “the dinner partner from hell” who offers little conversation and has had bizarre encounters, such as a man eating a cheese sandwich during a date.

Brandt found some success in Salsa dancing, recommending it for those seeking closeness. She recognizes her insecure ambivalent attachment pattern, which has historically led her to push people away when love is within reach.

Despite her past experiences and insights, Brandt has begun to lose hope of finding a partner to share her life with. She concludes that she no longer believes she will find love.