Denmark faces a growing number of singles and a struggle with commitment, leading to shallow dating experiences and a longing for deeper connections. The author expresses concern over the fleeting nature of modern dating, characterized by a constant search for the “perfect match” and an inability to foster lasting relationships. This trend is highlighted by the increasing number of singles in Denmark, reaching 1.8 million, and the difficulty in maintaining relationships for more than a couple of weeks.
The author criticizes the pressure to be a perfect match from the start, arguing that it prevents the natural development of intimacy and genuine connection. Instead of allowing relationships to unfold organically, individuals are quickly discarded if they don’t meet immediate expectations.
The author advocates for a more “old-fashioned” approach to love, urging people to be more patient and understanding with each other. She suggests a shift away from the artificial concept of a “perfect match,” which has been promoted by dating platforms, and towards a more sustainable and forgiving approach to building relationships. The author even jokingly proposes the creation of a Ministry of Sustainable Dating and Love to address this issue on a national level.
She points out the irony of seeking love through payment platforms, which reduce human connection to a series of boxes and monthly installments. Ultimately, the author worries that this trend is leading to loneliness and desperation rather than genuine love.
Karina Borghild Nielsen, a nurse, concludes by humorously volunteering as a spokesperson for a Ministry of Sustainable Dating and Love, hoping to inspire a change in Denmark’s dating culture.